God expects faithfulness of all his people. But faithfulness for one Christian may look far different than faithfulness for another Christian. A wife and mom in southern England writes in. She is perplexed and frustrated and it’s obvious why. “Dear Pastor John and Tony, thank you for this podcast and the ways you have approached so many topics with care and godly insight. I have been hugely helped by episode 548 (‘How Do I Honor God in Chronic Pain?’) and episode 1243 (‘I Have Chronic Fatigue — How Do I Not Waste My Life?’). These episodes directly apply to me as a disabled mother to a 2-year-old and newborn. My disability causes constant pain and significantly limits my physical activity. I am grateful for a husband who will do anything he can to reduce my burdens, although he himself has health conditions which limit his ability to physically help. “ Proverbs 31 Chapter 31 1 The words of king Lemuel; the oracle which his mother taught him. 2 What, my son? and what, O son of my womb? And what, O son of my vows? 3 Give not thy strength unto women, Nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings. 4 It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; Nor for princes `to say', Where is strong drink? 5 Lest they drink, and forget the law, And pervert the justice `due' to any that is afflicted. 6 Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, And wine unto the bitter in soul: 7 Let him drink, and forget his poverty, And remember his misery no more. 8 Open thy mouth for the dumb, In the cause of all such as are left desolate. 9 Open thy mouth, judge righteously, And minister justice to the poor and needy. 10 A worthy woman who can find? For her price is far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband trusteth in her, And he shall have no lack of gain. 12 She doeth him good and not evil All the days of her life. 13 She seeketh wool and flax, And worketh willingly with her hands. 14 She is like the merchant-ships; She bringeth her bread from afar. 15 She riseth also while it is yet night, And giveth food to her household, And their task to her maidens. 16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it; With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. 17 She girdeth her loins with strength, And maketh strong her arms. 18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is profitable: Her lamp goeth not out by night. 19 She layeth her hands to the distaff, And her hands hold the spindle. 20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household; For all her household are clothed with scarlet. 22 She maketh for herself carpets of tapestry; Her clothing is fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sitteth among the elders of the land. 24 She maketh linen garments and selleth them, And delivereth girdles unto the merchant. 25 Strength and dignity are her clothing; And she laugheth at the time to come. 26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; And the law of kindness is on her tongue. 27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, And eateth not the bread of idleness. 28 Her children rise up, and call her blessed; Her husband `also', and he praiseth her, `saying': 29 Many daughters have done worthily, But thou excellest them all. 30 Grace is deceitful, and beauty is vain; `But' a woman that feareth Jehovah, she shall be praised. 31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; And let her works praise her in the gates. paints a picture of a ‘vigorous’ and ‘valiant’ and ‘strong’ wife — up early, late to bed, endlessly busy inside and outside the household. When I look at this example, and at the parents in our church without my physical limitations, it is very easy to feel confused about my practical role as a wife, and anxious about investing positively in my children. Many attractive aspects of our friends’ parenting, such as homeschooling, are unlikely for us. How do I build a vision for parenting faithfully through my limitations, and deal with my guilt over the things I cannot do?” Read or listen to this interview at our website: https://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/the-disabled-wife-and-the-proverbs-31-woman Find other recent and popular Ask Pastor John episodes: https://www.desiringgod.org/ask-pastor-john