How can single people who desire marriage keep those desires in proper perspective? Pastor John offers six ways to cultivate godly desire. Why does God withhold good things from us, his children? It’s a perennial question older than Psalms 73 Chapter 73 1 Surely God is good to Israel, `Even' to such as are pure in heart. 2 But as for me, my feet were almost gone; My steps had well nigh slipped. 3 For I was envious at the arrogant, When I saw the prosperity of the wicked. 4 For there are no pangs in their death; But their strength is firm. 5 They are not in trouble as `other' men; Neither are they plagued like `other' men. 6 Therefore pride is as a chain about their neck; Violence covereth them as a garment. 7 Their eyes stand out with fatness: They have more than heart could wish. 8 They scoff, and in wickedness utter oppression: They speak loftily. 9 They have set their mouth in the heavens, And their tongue walketh through the earth. 10 Therefore his people return hither: And waters of a full `cup' are drained by them. 11 And they say, How doth God know? And is there knowledge in the Most High? 12 Behold, these are the wicked; And, being alway at ease, they increase in riches. 13 Surely in vain have I cleansed my heart, And washed my hands in innocency; 14 For all the day long have I been plagued, And chastened every morning. 15 If I had said, I will speak thus; Behold, I had dealt treacherously with the generation of thy children. 16 When I thought how I might know this, It was too painful for me; 17 Until I went into the sanctuary of God, And considered their latter end. 18 Surely thou settest them in slippery places: Thou castest them down to destruction. 19 How are they become a desolation in a moment! They are utterly consumed with terrors. 20 As a dream when one awaketh, So, O Lord, when thou awakest, thou wilt despise their image. 21 For my soul was grieved, And I was pricked in my heart: 22 So brutish was I, and ignorant; I was `as' a beast before thee. 23 Nevertheless I am continually with thee: Thou hast holden my right hand. 24 Thou wilt guide me with thy counsel, And afterward receive me to glory. 25 Whom have I in heaven `but thee'? And there is none upon earth that I desire besides thee. 26 My flesh and my heart faileth; `But' God is the strength of my heart and my portion for ever. 27 For, lo, they that are far from thee shall perish: Thou hast destroyed all them that play the harlot, `departing' from thee. 28 But it is good for me to draw near unto God: I have made the Lord Jehovah my refuge, That I may tell of all thy works. Psalm 74 Maschil of Asaph. . And it comes in today from an anonymous woman who lives in Brooklyn. “Pastor John, hello! I’m a 26-year-old Christian woman, I’ve been saved for 9 years, and I’m single. I know the Bible says that no good thing does God withhold from those who walk uprightly ( Psalms 84:11 11 For Jehovah God is a sun and a shield: Jehovah will give grace and glory; No good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. ). But I feel like God is withholding marriage from me. How do I fight for joy and keep my desire for marriage in proper perspective as I wait?” Episode 1303: https://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/why-is-god-withholding-marriage-from-me Related Resources: “Dating: Good Jealousy and Bad” Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xbQEw-4YFgc&list=PLAcB0f-21Xj18f9k2fCve-js6Zfygr8yR “Will I Be Single for the Rest of My Life?” https://youtu.be/KLuN_n06eWA “Sick of Singleness and Satisfied in Christ” https://youtu.be/kBhveqBZvIg “What Hope Does God Give Lonely Singles?” https://youtu.be/nqKahum-YTY Ask Pastor John Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKvMOJ1T8T4&list=PLFF7F6AE365DA3564 Find other recent and popular Ask Pastor John episodes, http://desiringgod.org/ask-pastor-john